Heasley
1. B. I think Heasley did a great job at defining the different types of men, whether they are straight sissy boys, social-justice straight queers, elective straight queers, committed straight queers and males living in the shadow of masculinity. I know a guy in every category down to every last detail. It is weird that you never really think about it, and once someone else puts it into words, you can pick out many of your friends that fit into that one category.
Hennen
1. A. A new concept for me was the term "bear." I have never heard this term before when reffering to men and their physical appearance. I always just believed them to be macho or very athletic, but never giving them the term bear. It is weird that there are many groups that are strictly just for bears and their whole being is involved with the term bear.
Bergling
1. B. I think Bergling makes a great point on pg 32 when states, "I dont think anyone should ever have to apologize or justify those qualities he finds enticing in someone else..." I think that should be that way with everyone as well. We are all attracted to something and we should not have to give reason as to why. We need to make ourselves happy and if the certain people that we are attracted to do that then there should be nothing wrong.
Bergling
2. B. When Bergling discusses effeminate characteristics, the whole time I was reading it I could not stop thinking about my friend Nick. He has many of these characteristics, and people always ask me if he is gay and I simply say no. He is very straight but since he doesnt fit into that masculine role he is questioned for it all the time.
Wednesday, April 28, 2010
Blog 5
Thompson
1.B. I think Thompson does a great job at defining what societies see and feel when they hear the word masculine. We have done a great deal to construct this form of masculinity that needs to be shatterted and allow men and women to be able to openly express who they are despite what their gender is.
Katz Chapter 13
1. B. When Katz states that, "I am convinced that millions of men in our society are deeply concerned about the abuse, harrassment and violence we see- and fear- in the lives of our daughters, mothers, sisters and lovers" I see that in many of the guys that I know. When it comes to their little sister or their best friend that they truly care about they are very protective and they don't want to see any harm done to them.
hooks Chapter 7
1.B. I think hooks provide an excellent example for how to equalize men and women. Men need to see women as equals and it is really unfair that they do not see us as equals and they have to be dominant towards women. We do need to find a different way for boy to grow up with a different model. Society would be so different if we were able to find a way that would work.
hooks Chapter 11
1. B. I think hooks makes an amazing statement wen she says, "Men are on the path to love when they choose to become emotionally aware..." I think that is very true because they are able to open up an emotional side that society does not really allow them to express freely without being feminine. If all men could become more aware of their emotions it will be a really great step for society where we do not ciritisize men for showing their emotions.
1.B. I think Thompson does a great job at defining what societies see and feel when they hear the word masculine. We have done a great deal to construct this form of masculinity that needs to be shatterted and allow men and women to be able to openly express who they are despite what their gender is.
Katz Chapter 13
1. B. When Katz states that, "I am convinced that millions of men in our society are deeply concerned about the abuse, harrassment and violence we see- and fear- in the lives of our daughters, mothers, sisters and lovers" I see that in many of the guys that I know. When it comes to their little sister or their best friend that they truly care about they are very protective and they don't want to see any harm done to them.
hooks Chapter 7
1.B. I think hooks provide an excellent example for how to equalize men and women. Men need to see women as equals and it is really unfair that they do not see us as equals and they have to be dominant towards women. We do need to find a different way for boy to grow up with a different model. Society would be so different if we were able to find a way that would work.
hooks Chapter 11
1. B. I think hooks makes an amazing statement wen she says, "Men are on the path to love when they choose to become emotionally aware..." I think that is very true because they are able to open up an emotional side that society does not really allow them to express freely without being feminine. If all men could become more aware of their emotions it will be a really great step for society where we do not ciritisize men for showing their emotions.
Wednesday, March 24, 2010
Blog 4
Katz Chapter 3
1. B. When Katz begins the chapter with a personal story of the time he went to the movies with a girlfriend of his, and she walked out because it brought back memories from her rape I can completely relate. When I got in my car accident in July, there have been many things that have sparked my emotions and brought back many of the memories that I wish to forget. We cannot control many of the things around us that spark these memories, we never know when they are going to happen again but all we can hope is that we are surrounded by people who will be there to help us through it.
Katz Chapter 2
1. A. When Katz discusses stats regarding men’s violence, I was surprised that “the average age at which a child is first abused sexually is ten years old,” (Pg 21). It is a shame that our society has allowed this kind of behavior to happen to so many children at such a young age or even at any age. And that is just the average age that also includes many children who are often sexually abused at a younger age. Their innocence is taken away from them way to early.
Katz Chapter 5
1. B. The term “boys will be boys” is a term that I have often heard. It just gives their actions an excuse which is not correct. Everyone should be accountable for their actions no matter if they are male or female. It is just like saying for woman, oh the reason she was acting that way was because she was on her period, or she was PMS-ing. We should all be able to control our actions and not be excused by certain circumstances.
Katz Chapter 9
1. B. When Katz discusses the charges brought upon NBA athlete Kobe Bryant, I think that it was a great example to discuss. It shows that no matter who you are, if you have done something illegal in the courts eyes, that there will be consequences. Although not all celebrities are held accountable I think all of them should be and when they are sentenced to a certain amount of time in jail I believe that they should be there for the majority of it and not be released early because they are celebrities. No celebrity should be able to buy their way out of anything. They are people too and if the rest of society is being held accountable for their actions, then celebrities should be too.
Katz Chapter 2
2. A. Back to chapter 3, regarding my car accident I can really relate to his girlfriend from the story. When I watch television shows sometimes, and there is a car accident that is very similar to the way that mine occurred I get a little uneasy, when I’m driving and I see a car accident on the side of the road I can’t help but get goose bumps, or when I hear sirens I get scared worrying about what is going on. It is something that we cannot change, but overtime it may get better and that is all that we can hope for.
1. B. When Katz begins the chapter with a personal story of the time he went to the movies with a girlfriend of his, and she walked out because it brought back memories from her rape I can completely relate. When I got in my car accident in July, there have been many things that have sparked my emotions and brought back many of the memories that I wish to forget. We cannot control many of the things around us that spark these memories, we never know when they are going to happen again but all we can hope is that we are surrounded by people who will be there to help us through it.
Katz Chapter 2
1. A. When Katz discusses stats regarding men’s violence, I was surprised that “the average age at which a child is first abused sexually is ten years old,” (Pg 21). It is a shame that our society has allowed this kind of behavior to happen to so many children at such a young age or even at any age. And that is just the average age that also includes many children who are often sexually abused at a younger age. Their innocence is taken away from them way to early.
Katz Chapter 5
1. B. The term “boys will be boys” is a term that I have often heard. It just gives their actions an excuse which is not correct. Everyone should be accountable for their actions no matter if they are male or female. It is just like saying for woman, oh the reason she was acting that way was because she was on her period, or she was PMS-ing. We should all be able to control our actions and not be excused by certain circumstances.
Katz Chapter 9
1. B. When Katz discusses the charges brought upon NBA athlete Kobe Bryant, I think that it was a great example to discuss. It shows that no matter who you are, if you have done something illegal in the courts eyes, that there will be consequences. Although not all celebrities are held accountable I think all of them should be and when they are sentenced to a certain amount of time in jail I believe that they should be there for the majority of it and not be released early because they are celebrities. No celebrity should be able to buy their way out of anything. They are people too and if the rest of society is being held accountable for their actions, then celebrities should be too.
Katz Chapter 2
2. A. Back to chapter 3, regarding my car accident I can really relate to his girlfriend from the story. When I watch television shows sometimes, and there is a car accident that is very similar to the way that mine occurred I get a little uneasy, when I’m driving and I see a car accident on the side of the road I can’t help but get goose bumps, or when I hear sirens I get scared worrying about what is going on. It is something that we cannot change, but overtime it may get better and that is all that we can hope for.
Saturday, February 27, 2010
Blog 3
The Will to Change Chpt 3 (hooks)
1. B. On page 46, in an excerpt from James Saslow, “Daddy Was a Hot Number,” he states that children seek for their father’s approval, while their mother’s love is unconditional. I personally believe that many people want to feel the praise from their parents with the things that they do. With my family my mom always says good job when I get a “b” in the class where as my dad says why didn’t you get an “a,” never approving of what you did. Whatever you do is never good enough for him. You always know that your mom is going to approve of what you do, and when you try and get the same from your father you never do. There is always something wrong and no matter how excited you are to tell him what you accomplished, he is always just going to put you down. It is not like this in many relationships, but there are many that go through it and affect them later on in life.
Dude You’re A Fag Chpt 1 (Pascoe)
1. B. When discussing adolescent boys on page 17, they state that, “…boys are forced by families, peer groups, schools, and the media to hide their “true” emotions and develop a hard emotional shell that is what we know as masculinity.” I see this in everyday life through the movies that I watch, the news that I see and even in magazines. You rarely see celebrities crying or showing any form of emotion except for anger. The men that they see in everyday life do not show fear, hurt or sadness. It becomes a box that they have to fit into and if they do not hide their emotions then they aren’t “big boys.” Recently I saw on the news watching an interview of Ladanian Tomlinson, who was crying on national television about leaving the Chargers. It was one of the first times that I had seen such a masculine figure displaying emotions like that. It gives hope that those who look up to him, will see that it is okay to display those weak emotions, no matter if you are a woman or a man.
Dude You’re A Fag Chpt 2 (Pascoe)
1. C. When one of the teachers intervenes in the discussion going on with the boys in the class about the use of the word “gay,” I don’t understand why not that many teachers are like that. He was the one teacher that she had come in contact with who actually got involved in some of the discussions in a positive way. When you associate gay with being stupid, or not accepted, many who are not sure about their sexuality are going to be more hesitant with it. All teachers should take a stand to step in when discussions like this are going on, and put away their personal beliefs of what is right and what is wrong.
Dude You’re A Fag Chpt 3 (Pascoe)
1. B. When reading Ricky’s story about being open about his sexuality I applaud him. For many years he hid who he was until he figured out what the people were like before he was open with his peers. He shouldn’t have to care what others think. No one should be pressure to conform to other preferences despite their own beliefs. It is sad that society has that affect on people, where they have so much persuasion to keep those from showing who they truly are.
Dude You’re A Fag Chpt 4 (Pascoe)
1. B. When she discussed boys in groups and when they are just individuals in relationships and how they act differently in different company I see that a lot. When they are around their significant other they can show their true emotions because when they are with girls who tend to be more open with their emotions, they know that they wont be judged as hard as if they we’re in a group with their friends. Many of my friends put on that tough guy image when other guys are around but when they are alone with me they open up about what is really going on.
Dude You’re A Fag Chpt 3(Pascoe)
2. B. When reading about Ricky’s story, the whole time I was reading it I remembered this guy from high school, he was very open about his sexuality. He had a great personality, and was friends with almost everyone. One day he wore a skirt to school, not for a joke, or because it was some spirit day, he wore it because he wanted to. I remember very vividly that the administration sent him home because he was wearing it. They said he couldn’t return without wearing proper clothing, which in his case were pants or shorts. Everyone was really upset because he was sent home for it because it didn’t hurt anyone. It was really unfair to him and it shouldn’t have happened at all.
1. B. On page 46, in an excerpt from James Saslow, “Daddy Was a Hot Number,” he states that children seek for their father’s approval, while their mother’s love is unconditional. I personally believe that many people want to feel the praise from their parents with the things that they do. With my family my mom always says good job when I get a “b” in the class where as my dad says why didn’t you get an “a,” never approving of what you did. Whatever you do is never good enough for him. You always know that your mom is going to approve of what you do, and when you try and get the same from your father you never do. There is always something wrong and no matter how excited you are to tell him what you accomplished, he is always just going to put you down. It is not like this in many relationships, but there are many that go through it and affect them later on in life.
Dude You’re A Fag Chpt 1 (Pascoe)
1. B. When discussing adolescent boys on page 17, they state that, “…boys are forced by families, peer groups, schools, and the media to hide their “true” emotions and develop a hard emotional shell that is what we know as masculinity.” I see this in everyday life through the movies that I watch, the news that I see and even in magazines. You rarely see celebrities crying or showing any form of emotion except for anger. The men that they see in everyday life do not show fear, hurt or sadness. It becomes a box that they have to fit into and if they do not hide their emotions then they aren’t “big boys.” Recently I saw on the news watching an interview of Ladanian Tomlinson, who was crying on national television about leaving the Chargers. It was one of the first times that I had seen such a masculine figure displaying emotions like that. It gives hope that those who look up to him, will see that it is okay to display those weak emotions, no matter if you are a woman or a man.
Dude You’re A Fag Chpt 2 (Pascoe)
1. C. When one of the teachers intervenes in the discussion going on with the boys in the class about the use of the word “gay,” I don’t understand why not that many teachers are like that. He was the one teacher that she had come in contact with who actually got involved in some of the discussions in a positive way. When you associate gay with being stupid, or not accepted, many who are not sure about their sexuality are going to be more hesitant with it. All teachers should take a stand to step in when discussions like this are going on, and put away their personal beliefs of what is right and what is wrong.
Dude You’re A Fag Chpt 3 (Pascoe)
1. B. When reading Ricky’s story about being open about his sexuality I applaud him. For many years he hid who he was until he figured out what the people were like before he was open with his peers. He shouldn’t have to care what others think. No one should be pressure to conform to other preferences despite their own beliefs. It is sad that society has that affect on people, where they have so much persuasion to keep those from showing who they truly are.
Dude You’re A Fag Chpt 4 (Pascoe)
1. B. When she discussed boys in groups and when they are just individuals in relationships and how they act differently in different company I see that a lot. When they are around their significant other they can show their true emotions because when they are with girls who tend to be more open with their emotions, they know that they wont be judged as hard as if they we’re in a group with their friends. Many of my friends put on that tough guy image when other guys are around but when they are alone with me they open up about what is really going on.
Dude You’re A Fag Chpt 3(Pascoe)
2. B. When reading about Ricky’s story, the whole time I was reading it I remembered this guy from high school, he was very open about his sexuality. He had a great personality, and was friends with almost everyone. One day he wore a skirt to school, not for a joke, or because it was some spirit day, he wore it because he wanted to. I remember very vividly that the administration sent him home because he was wearing it. They said he couldn’t return without wearing proper clothing, which in his case were pants or shorts. Everyone was really upset because he was sent home for it because it didn’t hurt anyone. It was really unfair to him and it shouldn’t have happened at all.
Saturday, February 13, 2010
Blog 2
The Act-Like-a-Man Box (Kivel)
1. B. I believe that this “Act-Like-a-Man Box” is really does affect many boys and men. Kivel states that, “…it feels like a box, a 24-hour –a-day, seven days-a-week box that society tells boys they must fit themselves into,” that affects many. They constantly have to watch what they are doing, how they are acting and who they are associated with. Even when they sleep they are being judged, if you sleep with a night light on you are not a “big boy” or sleep with a stuffed animal you are not a “big boy,” those are things that are only acceptable for girls. If you sleep with a night light on you are scared and there for you are showing emotion which you are not supposed to appear weak. This box that society has created has affected society for the worse.
Patriarchy, The System (Johnson)
1. B. One line that really meant a lot to me was, “…what evil requires is simply that ordinary people do nothing,” (Johnson Pg 345). With ordinary people not taking any steps to resolve or help a situation it only allows it to go on and it fuels the fire even more. We are all guilty if we do not take steps to do the right thing in any situation. We should not be afraid to speak the truth and do the right thing in life, no matter what the situation is.
The Will to Change Chpt 1 (hooks)
1. B. hooks makes a great point when she states that, “Everyone who tries to create love with an emotionally unaware partner suffers,” (hooks Pg 15). If someone is not at the point in their lives to open up and be open to being at the same emotional level as their partner then there is never going to be a happy ending unless they can come to terms and both be open to many emotions. Many women want to feel the love from men but they soon find out that they will never get the love in return because real men are not supposed to have love as an emotion.
The Will to Change Chpt 2(hooks)
1. A. A new perspective for me that hooks brought up is that, “Citizens in this nation fear challenging patriarchy…” (hooks Pg 29). I have always just thought that is the way things went until I got into college and started taking women studies courses. It never occurred to me why people never asked questions or why they never did anything about it until recent years. One major reason why I think that many fear challenging patriarchy is because we have become so accustomed to this lifestyle that people are scared of the change and of the unknown. I believe that it would bring women and men onto an equal level without one being superior to the other.
2. B. The Will to Change Chpt 2(hooks)
When hooks discusses her grandfather, Daddy Gus, it made me think of my own grandfather. When you do grow older I believe that it is, “…easier to be disloyal to patriarchy in old age,” (Pg 13) because I see that in my grandfather. I hear of stories from my aunts, uncles and my mom about the way that he treated them, being the man in the family and if you went out of line you were disciplined. And then with his grandchildren you would never believe that he could ever be like that. He is the sweetest and kindest man that I know and I believe that as you grow older you begin to care less and less about what others think of you and how you fit into societies norms.
1. B. I believe that this “Act-Like-a-Man Box” is really does affect many boys and men. Kivel states that, “…it feels like a box, a 24-hour –a-day, seven days-a-week box that society tells boys they must fit themselves into,” that affects many. They constantly have to watch what they are doing, how they are acting and who they are associated with. Even when they sleep they are being judged, if you sleep with a night light on you are not a “big boy” or sleep with a stuffed animal you are not a “big boy,” those are things that are only acceptable for girls. If you sleep with a night light on you are scared and there for you are showing emotion which you are not supposed to appear weak. This box that society has created has affected society for the worse.
Patriarchy, The System (Johnson)
1. B. One line that really meant a lot to me was, “…what evil requires is simply that ordinary people do nothing,” (Johnson Pg 345). With ordinary people not taking any steps to resolve or help a situation it only allows it to go on and it fuels the fire even more. We are all guilty if we do not take steps to do the right thing in any situation. We should not be afraid to speak the truth and do the right thing in life, no matter what the situation is.
The Will to Change Chpt 1 (hooks)
1. B. hooks makes a great point when she states that, “Everyone who tries to create love with an emotionally unaware partner suffers,” (hooks Pg 15). If someone is not at the point in their lives to open up and be open to being at the same emotional level as their partner then there is never going to be a happy ending unless they can come to terms and both be open to many emotions. Many women want to feel the love from men but they soon find out that they will never get the love in return because real men are not supposed to have love as an emotion.
The Will to Change Chpt 2(hooks)
1. A. A new perspective for me that hooks brought up is that, “Citizens in this nation fear challenging patriarchy…” (hooks Pg 29). I have always just thought that is the way things went until I got into college and started taking women studies courses. It never occurred to me why people never asked questions or why they never did anything about it until recent years. One major reason why I think that many fear challenging patriarchy is because we have become so accustomed to this lifestyle that people are scared of the change and of the unknown. I believe that it would bring women and men onto an equal level without one being superior to the other.
2. B. The Will to Change Chpt 2(hooks)
When hooks discusses her grandfather, Daddy Gus, it made me think of my own grandfather. When you do grow older I believe that it is, “…easier to be disloyal to patriarchy in old age,” (Pg 13) because I see that in my grandfather. I hear of stories from my aunts, uncles and my mom about the way that he treated them, being the man in the family and if you went out of line you were disciplined. And then with his grandchildren you would never believe that he could ever be like that. He is the sweetest and kindest man that I know and I believe that as you grow older you begin to care less and less about what others think of you and how you fit into societies norms.
Saturday, February 6, 2010
Blog One
Gendered Bodies: Feminist Perspectives (Lorber and Moore):
1. B. An idea from this reading that I completely agree with is Lorber’s and Moore’s statement that, “…male and female bodies are indeed different, but they are, for the most part, made that way by social practices and expectations of how girls and boys, women and men, should look and act,” (Page 4 Lorber and Moore). I agree with this because the moment the baby is born and the doctor determines the sex of the child, they are automatically put into the pink or blue category. From that point on, society has a major influence on what they will wear, what toys they will be playing with and what type of job or career they are going to be going into, although after many years, the expectations of men and women in the workforce have altered and moved away from the social norms.
Gender Queer (Wilchins):
1. B. The debate over the two different sayings in the article about your internal thoughts and beliefs and societies nonverbal conversations back to an individual is very strong. Everyone should be able to live with the, “This is who I am, this is how I feel about myself, this is how I want you to see me,” type of attitude instead of being pressured and bullied by society’s idea of who you can and should be. Everyone should be able to express themselves freely without the feeling of needing to hide who they are from society. Society puts major pressure on individuals to be a certain way and it creates many to be depressed because they have to hide who they truly are.
How Do You Know? (Green):
1. A. A new and different perspective that I found interesting was that, “It’s your gender identity that’s in the driver’s seat.” Before this class, gender and sex just kind of blurred together for me, and now understanding the differences between the two, it makes it easier to get a better understanding of what they are saying. Gender identity is a new concept for me, and it does make sense. You cannot control how you feel inside about whom you believe that you are. If you feel like a woman, but are a man then that’s who you are and no one should tell you any different. You should be able to express it freely without any pressure from society.
“Night to His Day” (Lorber):
1. B. I believe that we all subconsciously look at each individual and if they find someone doing the wrong “gender” we are all are a little bit shocked. His example of the men taking care of their children is a new concept that we have not seen that often in society. The man was always supposed to be the breadwinner and the woman, the caretaker of the house and the children and now gender has been recreated.
2. B. Gender Queer:
One of my friends is very open about whom he is and his sexuality. He does have the attitude of “this is who I am, this is how I feel about myself, this is how I want you to see me,” and I applaud him for it. When I first met him he was very open about everything and I was skeptical about him, but once I got to know him he truly amazed me. He is a great friend and it only goes to show that by judging people before you get to see what kind of person they really are on the inside does have many draw backs.
1. B. An idea from this reading that I completely agree with is Lorber’s and Moore’s statement that, “…male and female bodies are indeed different, but they are, for the most part, made that way by social practices and expectations of how girls and boys, women and men, should look and act,” (Page 4 Lorber and Moore). I agree with this because the moment the baby is born and the doctor determines the sex of the child, they are automatically put into the pink or blue category. From that point on, society has a major influence on what they will wear, what toys they will be playing with and what type of job or career they are going to be going into, although after many years, the expectations of men and women in the workforce have altered and moved away from the social norms.
Gender Queer (Wilchins):
1. B. The debate over the two different sayings in the article about your internal thoughts and beliefs and societies nonverbal conversations back to an individual is very strong. Everyone should be able to live with the, “This is who I am, this is how I feel about myself, this is how I want you to see me,” type of attitude instead of being pressured and bullied by society’s idea of who you can and should be. Everyone should be able to express themselves freely without the feeling of needing to hide who they are from society. Society puts major pressure on individuals to be a certain way and it creates many to be depressed because they have to hide who they truly are.
How Do You Know? (Green):
1. A. A new and different perspective that I found interesting was that, “It’s your gender identity that’s in the driver’s seat.” Before this class, gender and sex just kind of blurred together for me, and now understanding the differences between the two, it makes it easier to get a better understanding of what they are saying. Gender identity is a new concept for me, and it does make sense. You cannot control how you feel inside about whom you believe that you are. If you feel like a woman, but are a man then that’s who you are and no one should tell you any different. You should be able to express it freely without any pressure from society.
“Night to His Day” (Lorber):
1. B. I believe that we all subconsciously look at each individual and if they find someone doing the wrong “gender” we are all are a little bit shocked. His example of the men taking care of their children is a new concept that we have not seen that often in society. The man was always supposed to be the breadwinner and the woman, the caretaker of the house and the children and now gender has been recreated.
2. B. Gender Queer:
One of my friends is very open about whom he is and his sexuality. He does have the attitude of “this is who I am, this is how I feel about myself, this is how I want you to see me,” and I applaud him for it. When I first met him he was very open about everything and I was skeptical about him, but once I got to know him he truly amazed me. He is a great friend and it only goes to show that by judging people before you get to see what kind of person they really are on the inside does have many draw backs.
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